Comments on: avoid-dance

By: SamZeb

SamZeb — Mon, 22 Dec 2003 18:56:08 +0000

Thanks for that…that was really well written!

Once again, I can totally relate.

And yeah, timing is always a big issue. Things that could be ‘right’ always happen at the ‘wrong’ time seeming to make the things themselves ‘wrong’ — does that even make any sense?!

By: Andrew

Andrew — Mon, 22 Dec 2003 10:49:22 +0000

Sometimes “trying to find the understanding that calms me down” can seem impossible. Searching so desperately for the map to find my way to the home I know I could have. Those breadcrumbs always seem to disappear don’t they? Thoughts and proverbs sound so confusing when strung together…”everything happens for a reason” coupled with “seize the day” along with “timing is everything”

Sometimes I wonder… Is the healing light at the end of the tunnel a freight train? Or is the frieght train at the end of the tunnel a healing light? Avoid-dance indeed.

Anyway…I really like this piece. Thanks

By: brandon

brandon — Sat, 20 Dec 2003 03:32:55 +0000

well done sholeh. i frequently find myself in dance position but before the music starts i make a decision that dancing is only going to distract me from whats really important. Me! take me seriously i dare you.

By: Sholeh

Sholeh — Fri, 19 Dec 2003 23:38:43 +0000

Lacey- well then, I’m in trouble. haha. Somehow though, things have a tendency to work out.

By: lacey

lacey — Fri, 19 Dec 2003 13:52:06 +0000

My mom is very wise, and she says that timing is everything. In my experience, this is absolutely true.

By: Sholeh

Sholeh — Fri, 19 Dec 2003 00:56:04 +0000

Thanks Steph & Jay!

Lev: thank you for that, and I like what you said about “…being my own protector and dissolving to some degree on another person…”.
I think for me the biggest struggle is not the HOW, sometimes, but the WHEN. My timing has a history of being really awful.

By: Lev

Lev — Thu, 18 Dec 2003 23:11:47 +0000

Something about this struggle that i’ve gone through – of finding a middle ground between these two attitudes: on the one hand, knowing that i need to be my own person – that i’m only useful and responsible to a relationship with another person if i’m being my own protector, making sure that i’m as whole and intact as i can possibly be. on the other hand, this desire to subsume into love, to dissolve into another person. and about a year and a half ago i was struggling with this balance – finding a middle ground between being mr. independent and dissolving into love – when i got this e-mail which i will briefly quote:

‘In Baha’i marriages, there exists this barrier. We are to be “even as one soul,” right? but then there’s this thing about the barrier. So we asked, during the workshop, how that one works out. Tom…, in his [Tom-ish] wisdom, pointed out that there is a difference between BEING one
soul and being EVEN AS one soul. “Even” is key here. The two people are to be united in what they do, but they maintain their independance [sic] in that each is ultimately responsible for their own relationship to God and thus their
spiritual progress. They are to help each other, to work together, to urge each other onwards, but that barrier remains – no one can interfere in your personal relationship with the Creator.’

This may or may not map onto avoid-dance. but it’s a satisfying thought for me. that i can move back and forth between being my own protector and dissolving to some degree on another person, as long as i recognize my own personal responsibility to my relationship with God.

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 18 Dec 2003 22:42:35 +0000

…wisdom and self-awareness reach out through knotted veils of confusion…

…nicely done.

By: steph

steph — Thu, 18 Dec 2003 07:57:45 +0000

I really enjoyed reading that, very well written and I can totally relate.